The assumption that parents, especially mothers, have a natural love for their child is a fundamental part of our belief systemand the core of. I have found my lifes true happiness, and that is to be the best mother for you. I totally focused on my newborn son and resented having her around. What should i do if i dont love my daughter anymore. This was not the first time shed said something like this, but it was the first time that i felt like she really meant it. I do care for her but not even close to the same way i feel about my older daughter and my son. My chemical romance i dont love you official music.
Cerena, a beautiful thirtyyearold, was chatting with me one day about her mother and also telling me about her therapy. This just wasnt the magic mother daughter bond that every book i read, every movie i saw, and every family id ever met had led me to expect. I really dont know what to do because i dont feel any love or likeness towards her and feel like such a mean person. If you dont like being disliked by your own parent, stop being such a jerk. I can seem to get an professional help, am inconsistent and negative to help myself as when im not depressed it doesnt bother me but im still no better at parenting.
The daughter i once new was a sweet, smart, caring, person. If youre talking to yourself negatively on the way home, youre feeding into the problem. So i just keep going, giving my sd and her dad time together while i sit on my own most saturdays, never dare show my husband any affection in front of my sd, watch her get her way at every opportunity. I recently drove out to my favorite glutenfree bakery, the happy mixer in chalfont, to celebrate my daughter s fifth birthday. The day my daughter said i didnt love her no idea what. I first told him six years ago and he was devastated, so i have kept my feelings quiet since. This doesnt mean i dont care and it doesnt mean i dont love my parents. I looked at her for a long time, taking in what she said. I do everything right by her and have given my all. I love my spouse very much, i love my siblings and parents, and i love my nieces and nephews. I dont call my parents anymore the washington post. Basically i love my boys to bits but i do not love my daughter, i never have done. I think hed been expecting a list of behaviors that he. So when i casually asked my daughter about her exam, it did not surprise me when she looked me square in the eye and said.
Dont make such a pest of yourself lol that she moves three thousand miles away. Youve been taught that all mothers love their children, would make any sacrifice for their child, and yet for some reason, you cant love yours. Im wrestling with whether to ask my husband for a divorce. Im sure you love your daughter otherwise you wouldnt go on here looking for help. What to do when you dislike your child empowering parents. Something like, i love you dearly, but i know i dont show it, or tell you how much i admire you and am proud of you. Get up, look outside and see my daughter in law standing outside with a bag and a pram holding my grandchildren.
Most of the time, a kiss and a hug from you is all it takes to make everything right in the world again. If you dont want your child anymore, know that you are not alone. I dont like my child a mother struggles with her child. You dont love me anymore, my 5 year old daughter said, tears on her cheeks. Hes not a nice person, and i have no idea where it comes from. Dont make your time media or consumer focusedmovies and shopping are out unless your team them with good facetoface time. Sometimes i am terrified of the person she is growing into, the comfortableness she finds in the lies and deception. Or that love of a non biological child will happen overnight. When sophie was 18 months old, we visited my sister, now a psychologist. Hes a pain, he argues with me all the time and hes just not fun to be around. If she werent family, she wouldnt be someone i would have anything to do with.
In quarantine, ive struggled not to break the glutenfree. She gives absolutely nothing back, and is even selfdestructive. Ray toro, frank iero, mikey way, bob bryar, gerard way. You already have them in your grandmother and your friends mom. I love my sister to death and would do anything for her, but i swear, as a person, i dont like her. I rely on my friends and family, including kids, who are good to me and dont try to force my nasty kid to be nice. When the twins were born i immediately bonded with my second son but had trouble bonding with my daughter.
Now that ive lived through my first punch to the parental stomach, ive realized a few things you can do to soften the blow if you find yourself a victim of your childs i dont love. I often too feel guilty for saying the child annoys me the majority of the time and my mum gets up me and says to grow up but i know how hard it is living with someone you just dont gel with. I dont think we can always be close or best friends with our parents. Its difficult for most people to conceive of a mother incapable of loving and nurturing her daughter, and certainly no daughter wants to believe that of her own mother. If your mother exhibits behaviour with deliberate and measured intent to disturb you and wont stop despite repeated pleas as in my case then why would she deserve you. In one paragraph or less, tell your daughter what you want the adolescent years to be like for her. My teenager is emotionally abusive and i want to move out. I love their father, but i dont understand stepmothers who profess, well, i love my husband so of course i love his children. I just dont know my daughter anymore ask the psychologist. These past several weeks my anxiety has gotten worse, i am on the verge of tears almost constantly, i go through periods where i just dont care anymore, i feel a huge amount of guilt for not being able to love my oldest son the way i love my youngestand just in general i am miserablethankfully i have had years of practice at putting.
Even if my adopted daughter turns out fine, there are the other children to consider my 3yearold biological son may spend years on the. Im so worried that my feelings will be even worse once i have my baby. I always reply in the affirmative, of course, but i find it hard to meet her gaze as i do so. Im 59 and ive moved into moms house and am seeing to her care. I can hear the guilt in parents voices when they say, sometimes i really dont like my child.
Back in the day, i liked to try out new recipes for my family, show off at dinner parties and potlucks, thrill the neighbors with fancy christmas cookies. There are times when i dont like her at all but i love her and will always love her. We have a one year old daughter and have been together 10 years married 2. First, know that you are not alone, and that these feelings are shared by others. I dont love my wife anymore, but i love my daughter. I have found that the past 3 years of estrangement, mixed in with angry, accusatory, wrongheaded accusations from him and his wife, that i no longer love my son. A few weeks ago my husband told me he doesnt love me any more and cant see a future with me completely out the blue. I mean i do love her, with all my heart but i dont seem to be pleasing her right i would say. I dont love my daughter the way i love my other children. You will see your daughter when she wants to see you. Marriage is a contract between you and someone else, and it sounds like youve screwed it up, or gotten sick of the constant fights or lack of them.
Through their eight years in the white house, i watched many interviews where they answered questions about politics, marriage, parenting, and so much more. I dont have much of a relationship with her anymore after 37 years of trying to earn her love, but im not angry anymore. You can give your child the life you want them to have by choosing adoption with a loving. Sometimes i dont like my daughter her view from home. I was the one to say, i dont love you anymore, that i wanted a divorce. I think she is trying to escape her own self, but i dont really even understand what that means for sure. It wasnt that he didnt know my deep unhappiness and dissatisfaction with our marriage but maybe he hadnt taken our previous conversations seriously enough.
I dont love him anymore, but i dont know what to do. I am not attracted to my husband i love him like a. What have i done so wrong to make my adult daughter. Its a truth we dont often admit, even to ourselves. I feel like a beast, but i dont love my adopted child. When mothers dont bond with their daughters psychology. But honestly, the guilt was overshadowed by a colossal sense of disappointment. I dont love the father of my son anymore telegraph. Im bored by my daughter, and she is distant and critical of me life. You will see your grandchildren when she invites you. The truth is, i dont think i do love her any more, certainly not in the way i used to. I met a partner earlier this year and were now expecting our own child. I dont feel like i can cope with life, feel that i can love and have healthy relationships so how can i teach my daughter my daughter is 8 now and i live in england.
And remember, loving him also means holding him accountable. She didnt want to talk so i gave her space and took the kids to sleep in my room. I dont feel any pride when they do something like get good grades or overcome an obstacle. My husband told me he doesnt love me anymore and cannot. Have you thought about phoning these people they deal with parents on the edge as well and can give you tips and emotional support 0808 800 22 22 parent line plus. Still not attached to adopted son after nearly 8 years. From my perspective, it is certainly bad but its not necessarily your fault. You dont love me because you made me eat broccoli kind of thing. Ive asked her whats wrong because i dont want to seem like im not in tune with her emotions or anything of that nature but that only causes problems. When your daughter tells you she doesnt love you cafemom. When your spouse says i dont love you anymore since my.
He is not the boy that i raised and not even someone i choose to consider family anymore. It still is and will always be your responsibility to be there for your child whether you love them or not. One interview that still sticks out for me is an interview with michelle obama where she was asked about the secret to their strong marriage. If you truly dont love them, find the person in your life that does adore them and allow them to be together more often, as a child in a loveless relationship with their mother can be extremely damaging to their emotional wellbeing. Meanwhile, you dont have to look far for the kind of motherly love or mother daughter relationship you seek. My husband is not really very helpful but he tries to be supportive to me. My biggest fear is that she will have to hit rock bottom before she would ever realize the harm shes been doing or come to us for help. I love him as my best friend but, despite still having sexual urges, i no longer feel attracted to him. I did when he was little, but now thats hes 5 its like he has such an obnoxious personality i cant find any love for him. So i spent fathers day w my sweet daughter and half a broken heart.
When sophie was 18 months old, we visited my sister. It was hard for me to realize i dont love my mother. I feel like i am going to have a nervous breakdown. I wish my stepchildren would go away i dont really like them and i feel terrible about it, but i only have love for my own daughter. He hasnt cheated on me, im sure about that, nor have i cheated.
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